My Communication Style

After being evaluated by my fiance and colleague for this week assignment I found that they both scored me in the group one as a people-orientedin my listening style.  I too, scored myself as people-oriented.  What was different was how they scored me as communication anxiety. My scored from my fiance was low and my score from my colleague was in the middle.  Through these assessements I found that I communicate differently when I am with different and in a different environment.  For the verbal aggressiveness they both scored me in the significant level which was kind of surprise to me because I hate confrontation and try to avoid it. 
From this assessment I found that I communicate and respond differently depending on the environment and people I am around.  My coworkers and colleague sees the professional side of me and my fiance see the down to earth person. 

Three Goals that I think can help me communication more effectively with other people are:
 

1.  feeling  more comfortable when speaking to others that I am unfamiliar with

2.  continue to be a good listener and try not to trust people so easily

3.  try not to offend others by personal attack about as ituation that I dislike in an argument .                     

Communicating Differently

Do I find myself communicating differently around a group of people and culture?  Yes, however, I am very caution on what I say and how I say it depending on if it is work related or a just casual conversation with a friend.  When it work related I try to keep my language professional, whereas when I am talking with my friends I am using more slang.   

Unfamiliar TV Show

Awkward

For this assignment I was to watch a TV show I never watch before.  Awkward is a television show on MTV that is about a girl named Jenny who dates was dating guy and they ended breaking.  I had no idea what was going in this TV show. 

In this particular episode the characters' relationships far as communicating is mostly gestures and body language such as hands moving with they are talking, neck rolling, and eyes rolling.   Basic on their gestures they relationships are friends. There was also a lot of kissing scenes in the TV show.  They were also communicating with cell phones talking and texting.

When I turned the sound back on my assumption was correct they were friends and using hands gesture and different body language was a way they communicated.  They were talking about Jenny boyfriends and why he was at a concern party. 

 

This show is basically teen girls and boys and they are dating each other.  Through the reading I have found that verbal and nonverbal communication skills are skills that can be culture, it can cause by your emotions at that moment.  In the episode I think I lot of their communications where basic off of their emotions.   I could tell by their voice, facial expression, body language, and gestures.  They use their language to express feelings and to share information.

 

To really understand this show you have to watch it from the beginning.  I had no clue what was going on.  My niece had to tell me what the show was about after I watch it.  As I mention this show has a lot of kissing scene and sex scenes.   

Competent Communication

When I think of someone who demonstrates competent communication are my center manager and FSA (Family Service Advocate).  When they speak they speak with passion about different situations.  Working in low-income program they are a lot of the things to see.  However, when things are not safe for the child or for the family these two people speak on behalf of them trying to communicate with families or whoever is need at the time.  When things are reported it takes affect as so as possible.  You can tell they are doing this type of work with a passion because when things are not going as they are suppose to be they are doing whatever they have to do to make sure things are getting done properly. 

I would love to model some of these communication behaviors because they are so well spoken and every knowledgeable in what they do.  They have a passion for help others and making sure families are provided with the best services.